Ephesians 5

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…

“Husbands love your wives like Jesus loves you.”

Jesus adores me. Jesus is absolutely devoted to me and cherishes the relationship we have together. Exactly.

For a husband to be devoted to his wife as his #1 neighbor is the foundation of well being for our families, and beyond that for the society.

Now, this is not about romance, it is about focus. It is about understanding. To be devoted to my wife’s well-being is to have compassion and feel her needs. Where is she vulnerable? How can I be the kind of husband who will pay attention to this?

So often in marriage there is the challenge of husband’s having their main focus and devotion being on something other than their wife. There is nothing wrong with paying attention to other areas of life, if loving neighbor #1 is #1.

You see Jesus doesn’t command us to love everyone. He loves everyone, but we can’t because we don’t have his capacity. Love needs to be specific. We simply don’t have the resources to be that specific and devoted to the well-being of everyone.

This is why we start small. We start with our wife. When we devote serious attention, thought, prayer and service towards her, we will be changed in a way that makes further devotion possible. We expand that love to our children and/or those closest to us. And so on. And the range of our influence over the well-being of society grows.


What are ways a husband might take a wife for granted?

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