Philippians 2

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

When you are working together with others what is the key target?

Building relationship?

Getting results?

If it is getting results you will not get results in the long run. You will wear each other out or someone will simply quit.

In business, there is much talk about the bottom line. Is your bottom line making more money or is it building a better team for the long haul? You can’t have both unless you start with people.

Just like most areas of life, if you work on building relationships you have a better opportunity to achieve the results you are looking for. That’s the bottom line. Working together starts with building the relationship.

This has to do with more than simply business. Getting results usually means working on problems. In all of our relationships we do well to remember this: People before problems.

Keeping our relationship bigger than our problems is a key to marriage, for instance. How many marriages get bogged down on issues we are trying to work out rather than cherishing the relationship?

People before problems is a key to raising children. Many a home becomes a war zone of irritation over something as mundane as cleaning your room. Or think of how much time is wasted simply arguing about who is right and who is wrong. We are always trying to get the results we want. Here is a secret to end all that arguing. A simple phrase.

“Do you want to be right or do you want to be helpful?”

If it is more important for you to be right and “win” the argument, than you haven’t really “won” anything. You can be correct about something and damage your closest relationships at the same time.

Instead, we do well to learn that right or wrong isn’t as important as working together with graciousness and forgiveness until we come to results we can agree on.

No, it is more important to remain relational when there is problem rather than for you to get the results you want.


Some people treat life like a series of arguments I have to win? Is that you or someone you know? What affect does this have?

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