1 Corinthian 13
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;”
Imagine an on/off switch on the back of your neck. This is your relational circuit. When the switch is turned “ON” you are in synch with the people around you emotionally. Able to relate. When the switch is “OFF,” your capacity to remain relational disappears. TYour relational circuits or “RC’s” are shut down. Dr. Karl Lehman has identified some tests to see if your relational circuits are shut off.
Signs you have shut down relationally
1. You don’t feel like being around someone you normally like.
2. You just want to make a person or a problem go away.
3. Your mind is locked on to something upsetting.
4. You become aggressive in the way interrogate, judge, or fix people.
5. You don’t want to make eye contact.
6. You feel like it is their fault if they get hurt by something you do or say.
You can relate to others if your “RC’s” are shut off. It just won’t be pleasant or helpful. It will simply bring grief.
When are you most vulnerable to having your “RC’s” shut off?