Yesterday, we looked at attachment pain. Because of how our brains are wired, there is no built in solution to turn off attachment pain. When we try to just forget about it and pretend it doesn’t matter. This is the Bah humbug approach.
Sure enough, you can eventually convince your brain that you don’t care. Trouble is, your brain will disconnect the thinking part from the feeling part. You will still have attachment pain, but you won’t know it. Then you’ll ask yourself, Why do I feel so blue this Christmas?
With attachment pain, we have little or no control over our defenses. So, we still dread getting together and we look for ways not to meet.
This also, has something to do with our dreams. We all have dreams about what life should be like. We have been dreaming since we were little.
“I am going to dream about having joy when I grow up. I’m going to be happy. Jesus puts joy in my heart. Everyone will like everything about me. I will be popular and people will be happy I am there.”
Nothing bad happens in those childhood dreams.
But, when we grow up, our dreams don’t all come true. If our joy is dependent our dreams coming true, we will be disappointed. And when we have a high degree of attachment pain, everything is filtered by it.
We see kids having joy during Christmas and are full of joy…usually.
But, what about if your child dies or your child is sick? What if you want children but are having infertility issues? What seems to bring everyone else joy, those happy children, isn’t bringing joy for you.
Alright, nice bit of Christmas cheer I’m bringing, huh? Well, God gives us a way to experience joy even during the pain. Next…
Have you or someone you know, had a hard time at Christmas when every around you seems happy? What was it like?